Many people feel satisfied when they receive compliments. But can all compliments be called good?
We can recall 10 compliments that are actually offensive, but many simply do not notice it.
"You look better than usual."
Although this seems like a compliment, the phrase emphasizes that the person usually does not look good. This can cause a feeling of insecurity and negatively affect self-esteem.
"You are so brave that I always wonder what you will say."
This may sound like praise for courage, but in reality it highlights that a person's opinion often comes as a surprise or even a shock.
"You are so smart for your age"
While this may seem like a compliment, it casts doubt on the idea that a person can be smart at their age.
This belittles the person's accomplishments and experience.
"You're doing so well, even with your limitations."
This comment may sound comforting, but the phrase "despite" conveys that the limitations are significant and may hinder development.
"You're so fat/skinny, but you still look good"
Although this may seem like a compliment for appearance, it is actually criticism for weight. This can cause complexes and negative feelings.
"You're so funny, but of course not for everyone"
This may seem humorous, but it highlights that not everyone appreciates the person's humor, which could be perceived as an offensive remark.
"You are so strong, even in spite of your weakness."
This compliment may sound supportive, but it conveys that the person has weaknesses that he or she must overcome to be strong.
"You are so talented, but why did you choose such an impractical profession?"
He expresses surprise or even bewilderment at the person's choice, despite his talent. This can harm confidence in his own abilities.
"You're so friendly, but no one seems to want to be friends with you."
This comment may seem paradoxical, but it highlights that despite being friendly, the person has no friends or social circle.
It can also immediately highlight certain negative traits that are also worth taking seriously.
"You're so creative, but it'll never make you money."
While this may seem like praise for creativity, it actually states that success and creativity are incompatible, which can undermine motivation.
With a similar phrase, another person can indicate that he is a loser who cannot achieve anything in life.
Earlier we talked about how to live happily .
