Have you noticed that after several years together, conversations are reduced to utility bills and shopping lists?
Most couples forget that passion doesn't die on its own - it's killed by routine and inattention.
Try the 10-Minute Rule
Make time every day to sit down with each other, turn off your phones, and talk only about feelings, dreams, or memories.
Not about work, not about children, not about repairs. For example, remember how you first met, or imagine where you would go on a round-the-world trip.
It doesn't require money or effort, but it forces the brain to see the partner as a person again, not a roommate.
Also, stop dividing up household chores.
Instead of "you do the dishes, I'll take out the trash," try doing something together. Cook dinner with four hands, even if it's slower.
Run a load of laundry and dance to a silly song while the machine runs. Laughter and physical contact (even casual touching) increase levels of oxytocin, the bonding hormone.
And never sleep in different rooms, even after a fight. Just say, "I'm still angry, but I care about you." These words will stop the war better than a thousand apologies.
What to do if feelings have cooled down like morning coffee
Try "dates to the past." Remember what you did in the first months of your relationship and repeat it. If you used to go to the cinema to see comedies, buy tickets right now.
Loved riding bikes? Rent one for the weekend.
Brain neurons respond to familiar actions, triggering the mechanisms of falling in love.
And also, write each other letters by hand. Not text messages, but paper notes with the words: “Thank you for washing the dishes today” or “Your smile makes my day.”
Hide them in your pockets, bags, or under your pillow. They're like mini surprises that remind you that you're still a team.
And don't ignore the power of touch.
Scientists have proven that 20-second hugs a day reduce the level of cortisol (the stress hormone) and increase trust.
You don't have to wait for a reason - hug your partner while he brushes his teeth or cuts vegetables.
And if you want to "reboot" your emotions, have a "day of silence". Communicate only with gestures and glances for the whole day.
It's funny, it's uncomfortable, but it makes us look for new ways to understand each other.
The secret is in the details
Bring your partner a cup of tea without asking. Say "thank you" for something that seems ordinary.
Make a ritual: every Sunday, choose a new dish and cook it together. Even if it turns out inedible, you'll laugh and remember this moment.
Love is not about grand gestures, but about daily attention to detail.
