Often, clarifying relationships between partners ends in resentment. But if you approach this matter correctly, you can move to a higher level.
Only a few people know how to quarrel according to all the rules and have at least some idea of how to properly criticize their partner.
Psychologist Olga Romaniv told Aif.ru in an interview what words you can safely say to your partner.
The expert noted that words can ruin a relationship or take it to a completely different level. The main thing is to know what can be said and what cannot.
First, criticize actions
This is the main mistake when a man and a woman get personal when sorting out their relationship.
In fact, we need to discuss specific actions or behaviors.
The psychologist advises to “separate the action from the personality.”
This means that instead of calling your significant other a slob, talk about your feelings about clutter.
Second, focus on feelings.
The next mistake is focusing on accusations.
Instead, you need to talk about what worries you, what emotions arise in you because of the actions of your other half.
For example, instead of blaming your partner for being consistently late or staying late at work, ask them to call next time.
These rules will help you avoid arguments, increase your level of trust, and help your partner change their attitude towards you.
