You can talk about the relationship between mothers and daughters for as long as you can watch water flow or a fire burn.
Relationships with mothers can be very different, and sometimes they are overshadowed by grievances from childhood.
Every year they only accumulate and even in adulthood they remain with us in the form of memories of unpleasant words and actions.
If this situation has any relation to you, perhaps a proven method from psychologists Elena Reunova and Marina Tushevskaya will help you to let go of old grievances.
Repeat the "magic" phrase
If you feel like you are once again caught up in negative emotions and are about to lose your temper, say (to yourself, if you like) just one phrase: “When my mother screamed (screams) or swore (swears), she does it to protect me.”
With this simple expression, you can see that your mother acted (or is acting right now) not out of malice, but out of a desire to help.
It is quite possible that her parenting methods were not the most humane, but only because she learned them from your grandmother, she did not know about the existence of other ways to convey information to you, and she had modest experience, and not a desire to harm.
This technique helps to rethink the situation and see the other side of the coin.
Once you begin to realize that your mother did everything possible for her during that period of her life, you will notice how the bitter feeling of resentment gradually begins to go away.
Repeat this phrase over and over to focus on the motives behind her actions and soften the negative perception of them.
