For many parents, the problem of establishing relationships with their adult children is pressing.
In this article, we will share rules that should be followed by fathers and mothers who want to improve their relationships with their adult offspring.
Change the position of "parent" to the position of "adult"
The main thing to remember when communicating with your daughter or son is that they are already adults, which means they are your equals. The more commands, advice and criticism you give, the stronger your children's resistance will be. If you want to achieve understanding, lower yourself to the level of "equals" with your children.
Don't teach children how to live and what to do.
Such behavior is humiliating for an adult son or daughter, since it implies that they are not capable of making the right choice and decision on their own.
Get used to the idea that no one owes you anything
An adult child is not obligated to help you just because you gave birth to and raised them. They did not ask you to, so if you failed to raise your children in a way that makes them grateful and willing to care, the fault lies with you.
Don't violate other people's boundaries
Don't give unsolicited advice - even if you're trying to improve your adult child's family relationships or help them choose a life partner. Let your children make their own mistakes, which will toughen them up and teach them wisdom.
Forget the grievances
Sometimes it happens that communication between a parent and an adult child is absent due to old grievances or unsaid things. It's time to forget everything that happened in the past. Call your son or daughter and ask how they are doing.
Earlier we listed 5 phrases that will help you make peace after a fight.
