If you sort things out according to the rules, then the union of two hearts will only benefit from this. Then quarrels will end not only with reconciliation, but it will also be possible to resolve the sore point.
Some might say that you need talent to quarrel and then come closer to each other. But that's not quite true.
You don't need to master the art of negotiation, you just need to exclude 5 sensitive topics when sorting out your relationship.
First of all, don't compare your partner.
You can't compare your loved one with exes, neighbors, acquaintances or colleagues. Especially you can't compare them with relatives.
Such words hurt deeply, and it will be a long time before you are forgiven for the insult.
Secondly, discuss the specific situation.
If you don't like that your spouse doesn't put the cup in the dishwasher, then that's all you have to talk about. No need to add scattered socks, dirty windows, and an empty refrigerator.
The same goes for mistakes you've already discussed in previous arguments. There's no need to go back to them.
Thirdly, there is a ban on discussing intimate relationships
If during an argument you move on to deeply personal relationships, pointing out someone's failure in this matter, then you can seriously humiliate the person.
It's just a no-no. Get used to it.
Fourth, don't threaten to leave or break up.
If you are not ready to end the relationship, then speak carefully. Wanting to scare your partner by threatening to leave, one day you will understand that the threat does not work. Or, on the contrary, your partner will be happy with these words.
Fifth, don’t reassure your partner.
It is possible that a calm person is simply talking emotionally during an argument, rather than shouting. By advising him to calm down at this point, you are adding fuel to the fire. So it is better to calm down yourself.
Earlier we talked about why people are in no hurry to leave their abusive partners .
