Cheating is the main reason for divorce. There can be dozens of reasons for infidelity. Like any other topic, they have myths that science has debunked.
Cheating is 100% relationship destruction
It is correct to say that cheating makes the relationship different. It is the cause of a feeling of betrayal and loss, loneliness, disappointment.
The cheater often feels guilty and understands his mistake. But this does not mean that the relationship is falling apart.
They remain tense for some time and change partners forever.
Cheating cannot happen without a reason. People who want to save their relationship look for this reason, work on it and purposefully go towards reconciliation. Some couples only become stronger after adultery.
Infidelity is the fault of both partners
People can cheat for different reasons. It is believed that both partners are to blame in one way or another, because their behavior created the ground for cheating. But this is just a myth.
Often, cheating occurs because the cheater has an opinion about the normality of cheating that does not fit into a healthy society. He simply does not see anything wrong with it.
Cheating can also occur due to alcohol intoxication, mental illness, stress, low self-esteem, falling in love with a new object of adoration, the desire to try something different in sex, etc. In these situations, only the one who decided to cheat is to blame.
Cheating only happens with strangers
The myth was spread by movie scripts that showed a man going to a bar and cheating on her with the first guy he met.
In real life, everything happens differently. Sex on the side often happens with a familiar person.
At the same time, when in a relationship, a person spends a long time looking at a future sexual partner, corresponds with him, flirts, and exchanges photos.
This indicates that a person consciously chooses a suitable candidate, is concerned about his relationship, and does not want to risk his health and social status.
New relationships will change the cheater
It is common to meet a couple where he or she once left the family for a new relationship that began before the breakup.
New passions sincerely believe that their other half, whom they took away from the family or long unofficial relationship, was simply unhappy, and the union was unhealthy. But with them they will be happy and betrayal will never happen.
Perhaps they simply believe in their own exceptionalism, having an overly inflated self-esteem. But the statistics for such infantile blind people speak of completely different indicators.
People who have cheated on their partners before will cheat in new relationships too. The risk of adultery is 4 times higher for them than for previously betrayed partners.
Financial dependence is a defense against cheating
There is an opinion that a person dependent on a partner in financial matters will not cheat because of gratitude, fear of losing the "wallet", because otherwise he will lose everything and his life will become more complicated. But in practice, everything is the opposite.
People who depend on other people's money are prone to cheating 3 times more often than independent people. Moreover, a dependent man is more prone to cheating than a woman.
Moreover, it has been calculated that men who earn well are much less likely to cheat than those who contribute less than 70% of the total family budget.
Betrayal by a partner has many myths, often formed on the basis of implausible stories, incorrect perception of situations and their subjectivity.
They harm people because belief in them mentally makes them look for signs of betrayal.
Earlier we talked about how to understand that you have chosen the right man .
