Scandals, quarrels and conflicts are inevitable even in the strongest and most loving families. But what to do after a loud scandal that seems to have destroyed the relationship of loved ones?
It is important to remember that any relationship can be improved if both parties want it.
The first step to reconciliation is to give hot heads and emotions time to cool down. Don't try to solve all the problems and apologize right after the scandal.
It’s better to go to different rooms for a while, do your own things, and calm down.
When you feel ready to talk constructively, start. Start the conversation calmly, without accusations.
Listen to each other's point of view. Try to understand the reasons for the scandal, find a compromise.
To improve relations after a family scandal, it is important to analyze its causes. Often, a scandal is a consequence of accumulated grievances, unresolved conflicts, and communication problems.
Talk frankly about what you are not happy with in the relationship, what causes irritation and tension.
Express your feelings, but do not insult or blame your partner. Try to speak in the first person: "I feel", "it touches me", and not "you always".
Discuss what concessions you are willing to make to improve the relationship. Outline specific steps to avoid similar situations from happening again.
Agree on rules of communication if necessary.
The main thing is to sincerely admit your part of the blame for the conflict and apologize for harsh words and actions. Show your willingness to improve the relationship.
Once you've had a conversation and decided to move forward, it's important to back up your words with concrete actions.
Show attention and care for your loved ones. For example, make a pleasant surprise, cook a favorite dish, buy a bouquet of flowers or a gift that will bring joy.
Spend more time together discussing neutral topics. Praise and thank each other for little things. This will help to revive warm feelings.
Be patient and don't expect immediate changes. Rebuilding trust and comfort in a relationship takes time.
The main thing is a sincere desire to save the family. If you act together, show love and strive for compromise, you will be able to overcome any difficulties and establish harmonious relations.
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