Resentment is not the most pleasant feeling. No one wants to experience it, but still, as many people think, nothing can be done about it.
But in fact, it is possible to avoid such unpleasant feelings. This does not mean that you should avoid conflicts, that this is even possible. You will have to participate in them, you will have a desire and even a need to argue with someone.
But even in this situation, you can not be offended by anyone, not hold a grudge against anyone. Following several rules will help you achieve this.
Think about intentions
Before deciding to be offended, you need to think about what the other person wanted to achieve, whether he or she actually had evil intentions. It is very likely that you will have to come to the conclusion that everything happened by accident, that no one realized the consequences.
In this case, what took place will be perceived calmly, will not irritate. No far-fetched resentment will arise for sure.
Let's talk
This option is the simplest and most accessible. It is necessary to invite the offender to a dialogue, describe the situation to him. You need to say everything from your point of view, say "I", not "You". In this case, everything will not look like a complaint, will not allow the conflict to flare up even more strongly.
If you can't start a calm dialogue right away, you should wait a little, choose the best moment. When you manage to discuss everything, you will probably feel relief, and strong emotions will stop tormenting you.
Abstract yourself
If the situation that makes you upset happens constantly, then you should start acting in this way. You need to stop paying attention to the irritating factor, pay attention to those things and things that give positive emotions.
In this case, you will be able to avoid getting irritated and angry. The resentment will fade into the background, will not be expressed, and will be forgotten forever quite quickly.
Such methods will allow you to get rid of excessive touchiness forever. Due to this, life will sparkle with bright colors, it will not seem so gloomy and too boring.
