With the best of intentions, parents turn their children into victims and losers. Many don't even realize it.
But self-esteem issues can arise even from the simple desire to raise a polite and tidy child. Here's how it happens.
Experts from the Lady Mail newspaper say that a child should make mistakes and learn from them, rather than follow the advice of their parents.
Here are some of the common parenting mistakes that can turn a child into a shy victim.
Firstly, you shouldn’t force a child to share toys, candy, and so on, no matter who asks for what.
Secondly, you can’t shame a child for crying.
Such advice makes people hide their emotions, because they are taught from childhood that only ill-mannered or weak people cry.
Thirdly, do not scold children for the mistakes they make.
But often parents insist that the child must cope with the task the first time. And if he fails, he will definitely be told: if you can't do it, don't take it on.
Fourth, you can't raise trusting children by forcing them to be polite to everyone, even when the child doesn't want to. This is a direct violation of personal boundaries.
Fifthly, a child should not live up to his parents' plans for his life, and even more so should he feel guilty if he does not live up to these hopes.
And one more thing. Don't impose your opinion on your child just because you are an adult and know what is right and best for him.
He should consult, but he should make decisions independently.
