How to Tame Internal Aggression: Methods for Managing Uncontrollable Anger
Uncontrolled internal aggression can actually be tamed.
This is a character trait that needs to be fought against, otherwise it will be impossible to avoid eternal problems in relationships at various levels.
At the same time, experts note that internal aggression destroys physical and mental health.
If you don’t solve the problem, you won’t be able to avoid problems with your heart, digestion, headaches, as well as insomnia and stress with all its consequences.
How to stay calm
1. First, you need to learn to identify the symptoms of impending irritation.
As soon as they appear, immediately switch to relaxation, breathing exercises and other activities that help you cope with irritation.
2. Stop focusing your attention on the source of irritation. In this way, a person sharpens himself for negativity.
Instead, look for the positive in everything: in the situation, in the people, in the circumstances.
3. Next, you need to change your way of thinking using the cognitive restructuring method.
In simple terms, in a difficult moment before a fit of anger, tell yourself: “events are developing badly, but it’s not the end of the world.” Or something similar.
4. Eliminate from your vocabulary the words “never”, “always”, “it doesn’t work”, “you didn’t do it/forgot/broke it again”.
These phrases and words justify anger. And if something cannot be justified or logically explained, then it should not be. It is difficult, but it is possible to come to this.
5. And, of course, learn to relax, hone your communication skills, improve your vocabulary, sense of humor and other best qualities.
All this, if it does not help to remain silent at the right moment, then at least turn it into a joke, and therefore - to preserve health and relationships.
