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What to Do When Hatred for an Ex-Partner Poisons Your Life: How to Let Go of the Past
25.09.2024 15:42
Breakups are difficult periods in every person's life, which can be accompanied by various emotions, including hatred towards the ex-partner.
To start a new chapter in your life, you need to make every effort to eradicate this feeling. To do this, you will need to go through three stages.
Admit to yourself that your ex-partner is driving you crazy
Anger is certainly an unpleasant feeling. You may think that a good person never feels anger and easily forgives offenses, but this is not true - instead of engaging in self-criticism, listen to the advice of psychologist Janice Wilhauer, who believes that you need to accept the fact that you feel angry. You have the right to emotions, even if they do not correspond to social norms.
Express your emotions
Negative emotions are often suppressed, but this only slows down the healing process and can lead to a breakdown due to minor reasons. Try to express your anger in a healthy way, for example, by writing a letter to your ex, without mincing words.
After you have put all your feelings down on paper, put the letter aside (no need to send it) and do something fun and active. When you feel better, you can get rid of what you have written.
Take care of yourself
Anger is draining, especially if the breakup is recent. Take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, eating right, and resting. Connect with loved ones who understand and can support you. Do things you enjoy that bring you peace, like pursuing a hobby or soaking in a hot bath.
Psychotherapist Keri Long and cardiologist Cynthia Tyke recommend engaging in physical activity. They say it helps manage anger, stress, and anxiety. This could be going to the gym, jogging, dancing in front of a mirror, or punching a pillow.
