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Where does jealousy come from - top 3 non-obvious reasons
02.06.2024 14:52
Let's start with what is jealousy?
Jealousy is a complex of negative feelings when one person feels that the object of his attention does not show due affection, love, care, when a person develops possessiveness, a desire to be the only one.
Naturally, jealousy has several types. The first is when there are real facts. Let's say there was a real betrayal, says Fedusenko Daria .
And the second option is when people live in their fantasy. Naturally, it is a question of their self-esteem. When the partner did not even give a reason to doubt him.
And now I will tell you about the top 3 non-obvious reasons.
Manipulation
If, without objective reasons, your partner forces you to answer tricky questions such as: "Where have you been? With whom? What have you been doing?", then this is real manipulation. And if you start answering these questions and making excuses, then you have fallen for the manipulator's bait.
What to do? Don't make excuses, don't take the blame, try to discuss it in a calm environment. If you are not heard, then think about whether you need such a relationship?
Low self-esteem
Here everything is even simpler. Jealousy begins because it seems that others are better, prettier, more interesting. And your partner can leave. This is a question of your self-esteem and lack of fulfillment.
Sometimes a person does not believe that he can be loved and constantly doubts himself. And someone turns into Sherlock Holmes - starts checking the phone, calls, even hire detectives.
What to do? Work on your self-esteem. You can go to a psychologist. It is very important to work on your self-esteem. Because it will be useful not only in relationships, but also at work, in school and with friends.
The desire to mark boundaries
There are situations when your partner flirts with someone in front of your eyes. Here you need to be able to set your boundaries and convey this to your partner. And it is always better to discuss such things on the shore.
What to do? Here you just need to discuss in advance what cheating is for you, what is acceptable and what is not. Learn to talk. Don't drag it out!
If any of you recognize yourself in this article: feeling fear, anxiety, fear of losing your partner or being abandoned, perhaps you feel unworthy of love. I highly recommend reading the book “Anxious Relationships” by Leslie Becker-Phelps.
Earlier, the doctor told what qualities of women over 40 make men's heads spin.
