Is it possible to quarrel in front of a child: strange as it may seem, but yes – on one condition
Perhaps the idea that arguing in front of a child is not only possible, but can even be useful, seems absurd at first glance.
But don’t rush to conclusions – the main thing is that you argue correctly.
This means that the quarrel should be constructive, without violence, threats, insults and demonstrative insults. But speaking in raised tones and arguing is quite normal, the main thing is to come to a common opinion in the end.
This way you will demonstrate to your child that arguing and fighting are normal manifestations of disagreement between people.
In support of this, we present the results of a study conducted in 2009, in which 253 families with children aged 5-7 years took part.
Over the course of three years, scientists recorded conflicts between parents. As a result, it turned out that children who witnessed constructive quarrels between their parents are better able to defend their own opinions, are less susceptible to negative outside influence, and are better able to find solutions to their own conflicts with peers and adults.
As for destructive conflicts, in this case the risk increases that the child will grow up anxious, prone to aggression and violation of public order.
They are often characterized as uncontrollable; children who have had to witness destructive conflicts between their parents do not listen to adults, create dangerous situations for themselves and others, and in the future are more likely to suffer from depression.
Previously, we talked about how to get back to normal after a toxic relationship.
