What is a codependent relationship: signs and what is bad about it

06.05.2024 19:40

A healthy relationship is when two people live together and each other's presence or absence does not burden them. That's it in short.

Unhealthy relationships are a lot of examples in the everyday life of most modern people. One of such examples is codependency.

Experts explained what is good and what is bad in this case and why at least one of the partners needs to get out of this hole.

Codependency is bad

Partners keep each other as if on a leash under the influence of fears or anxiety. It will not be possible to talk about any kind of love here, because the relationship exists on the fear of being abandoned.

Signs

In such a situation, one of the partners is necessarily a victim, and the other is a savior.

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Moreover, the victim constantly suffers and pushes away the savior, who in his boundless love spends day after day (often in vain) to make the victim’s life more colorful and better.

The most common example is a man who has a mistress, or maybe two, but is unable to leave his wife.

Women in such relationships often idealize their partner, endowing him with qualities that he does not have at all.

And when a woman tries to save a “falling” man, she tries to prove her own superiority (unconsciously, of course).

At the same time, partners are ready to endure any hardships and humiliations, just not separation.

What to do?

No one has ever managed to break off such relationships right away. It takes a lot of time and effort.

The main thing is to stop self-flagellation, evaluate your own strengths and capabilities, seek help from specialists, and, if necessary, from friends.

Earlier we talked about the signs that indicate that it is too early to start a serious relationship with a man .

Author: Igor Zur Internet resource editor

Content
  1. Codependency is bad
  2. Signs
  3. What to do?