Excessive demands in relationships: how to understand that you have long been in captivity of illusions
It is a lot of work to build a healthy, harmonious relationship with your significant other.
However, there are people who start a new life in a completely different way, for example, being captivated by illusions, which is why the demands on a partner are too high.
Experts have spoken about the dangers that lurk behind the pages of novels, melodramas and, in general, the wrong attitude towards feelings.
We can talk about inflated demands if your value system corresponds to the following situations.
1. Dreaming of meeting the ideal created in their dreams, a man or woman can follow their dream until old age, and end up in proud solitude.
In such a state it is very difficult to accept a person with all his shortcomings.
2. If you believe that your happiness depends entirely on your partner, then don’t expect the union to last long, if it is formed at all.
Miracles do not happen, and you need to make at least some effort on your part.
3. Expecting that problems will be solved and love will conquer all adversity, be prepared that your partner’s patience may run out.
Work on yourself, give in, look for a way out of conflicts and quarrels on everyday grounds.
4. When the period of falling in love passes, there will be reasons to be dissatisfied with each other. The reason for this is a hormonal surge.
It is important to remember that hormones will be replaced by spiritual closeness, and this is also a lot.
5. Together all the time. This is good, but not always. There is a risk of getting bored with each other.
After all, the desire to be alone comes to everyone, and there is nothing wrong with that.
6. When trying to change your partner, if you are not satisfied with something about him, remember at least sometimes that this is impossible.
The danger of overly high demands is not only the risk of losing your chosen one, but also that you can find something completely different and constantly come up with excuses for other people’s weaknesses, shortcomings and mistakes.
Earlier we talked about the signs that a woman has become a “mother” for her husband .
