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What 5 Mistakes Men Make After a Breakup: Note for Women
10.08.2023 14:00
Updated: 23.01.2024 20:27
For a man, breaking up after many years of a relationship is a huge stress. The first few months can be very difficult to start living again.
And it is during this period that men make the main mistakes that can prevent them from quickly restoring their emotional and physical state.
Obsessing over improving yourself
When a man experiences emotional shock, he strives to become better, because people tend to blame their own shortcomings for a breakup.
Men actively analyze their decisions made in relationships, appearance, goals and views, find imperfections and rush into battle for change.
But self-development requires enormous strength, and a mind under stress does not have such resources. A man will only exhaust himself and become completely weak, without giving himself time to recover after a breakup, he will begin to turn to alcohol and casual relationships.
Looking for a new passion
After a breakup, most men look for a way to drown out the pain with a new relationship. Perhaps they simply feel the need for the care they have lost, or they are trying to demonstrate their good condition to the world.
However, the replacement will bring pain to both him and the new girl, who will be faced with an unresolved trauma.
A few months is the period when you need to be alone. During this time, you can calm down, experience negativity, draw conclusions and learn life experience.
A disregard for oneself
Giving up on your appearance, business, obligations, family, health because of a breakup is a demonstration of weakness and childish behavior.
The first couple of weeks are the hardest and perhaps the man will not even have the strength to open his eyes in the morning. But after hopelessness, one cannot continue to rule the roost.
You need to give yourself a few days to indulge in your feelings. But after that, it is important to get up, pull yourself together, even if by force. A man needs to remember that he is the most important person in his life and he deserves all the best.
Immersion in work
A dangerous condition that leads to overexertion, fatigue, increased stress against the background of complex emotional trauma. To immerse yourself in work in order to forget about experiences is a bad decision.
Emotions need to be lived through, otherwise they will remain inside, poisoning your life for many years to come. You can take a few days off work, get your thoughts in order, calm down as much as possible and work at the same pace, which will help you not to get mental problems.
Maintaining Communication with Your Ex
Even if the breakup was peaceful and mutually agreed upon, you can't communicate with your ex-girlfriend. The thing is that maintaining communication will not allow you to understand what happened, move on to a new stage, and come to terms with it.
Even if the breakup is peaceful, it is still more humane for both to disappear from each other's lives, if the couple is not connected, for example, by children. Or not to communicate for at least a few months, while the emotional wound has not yet healed.
After a breakup, a man's emotions are raging inside and you can't give in to their provocations. The mistakes listed above will only make the situation worse.
