On the Internet, in books you can always find advice that should help you achieve success. Someone with their help moves forward, conquers heights.
Sometimes no advice works. It happens to losers.
They do not give up the habits and traits that make them the holders of the said status.
You can talk for hours about what is happening, about events that do not suit you. Or you can take specific actions to get out of a difficult situation.
The loser chooses the first option. As a result, he continues to be in the negative, not giving himself a chance to get out of it.
There is nothing interesting or new in it, but this does not bother the loser. He will be devoted to everything familiar, and will not try anything.
The person will not gain any experience, he will not expand his knowledge base. It will be difficult for him to compete with those who are developing.
The loser will not feel comfortable in it. He will avoid being alone with himself, he will strive to be with someone.
And reflection, thoughts about the past, the future, analysis of something are important. Conclusions that are made when alone can help in self-realization.
The trial and error method works flawlessly. You need to go through it to become successful, to gain experience. Only a few achieve something serious the first time.
A loser cannot accept this. He dwells on the defeat, fears its repetition. So he gives up all attempts to move on.
A loser will only need momentary joys.
He will choose a small bonus now, rather than a significant one later. In the long run, this deprives him of the chances of success.