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How to understand that an employee is not liked in the team: 5 signs
13.08.2024 10:20
Updated: 28.09.2024 01:32
At first glance, it is easy to notice hostility on the part of the team.
Although not always, because when it comes to adults, you can expect any surprises from them.
This is not a school class, where it is perfectly normal to fight, swear, put thumbtacks, spit paper from pens, pour water into a school bag, lie in wait after school, and carry out other similar adventures.
In adult society, relationships are different and the level is higher. Even if colleagues do not do such obvious dirty tricks, this does not prevent them from mocking their victim in a slightly different way. How do they do it?
They hide important information
Sometimes such behavior results in extremely unpleasant consequences for the employee (loss of a bonus, reprimand or warning, deterioration of relations with the boss, loss of trust).
In fact, it is difficult to prove that a person really knew nothing about a new project or had not heard about changes in job responsibilities.
If the team is close-knit, then people, as a rule, discuss the smallest details. Even in a private conversation with the management (if such takes place) the employee will have a hard time. Rarely does he get out of it and prove his innocence in such cases.
They nitpick and deliberately make the job more difficult
For example, if a nurse who is unpopular with the team works in a clinic, then they start putting spokes in her wheels.
The doctor starts to get clingy, complain to the head of the department, force her to keep unnecessary journals that the other district nurses don’t keep.
With any questions and attempts to defend her rights, she simply runs into a blank wall. They don't hear her and continue to bend their line. So colleagues seem to hint that she should write a letter of resignation, because she is not welcome here.
They fall silent when he appears.
It's quite primitive, but a person instantly understands that a moment ago his colleagues were discussing him. Perhaps they were making fun of him or developing a plan for another denunciation. But few people risk speaking out to his face: it's easier to get lost in the crowd and bully from there too.
Ignore
If an employee sees in the morning that they are turned away from him, do not respond to his greeting, and during the day their questions or suggestions are not heard, then this is very eloquent evidence of a negative attitude.
Of course, it won't be possible to organize a full-fledged boycott, for example, someone from the management is obliged to conduct a dialogue. But ordinary employees can also avoid: demonstratively walk past, talk about him in the third person.
Rude
This is an extreme case, because if co-workers resort to personal attacks, it means that the boss gave them such an order.
Their hands are untied, so they can safely make a scene. And the victim himself, in all likelihood, should prepare for dismissal: he is clearly being neglected, insulted, humiliated, his voice is raised. This means that his future fate has already been decided.
Thus, bad attitude from colleagues is also bullying, only, unlike school bullying, it is more subtle and graceful.
If a person is offended, then everyone is sincerely surprised: nothing terrible was said to him! And in general, he is an adult, which means he should be able to adequately perceive criticism! But sometimes this takes on offensive forms, for example, as described in the second point. This is outright gaslighting, capable of truly shaking nerves and ruining the psyche.
After such antics of colleagues and bosses, people become permanent patients of neurologists, psychologists and psychiatrists, and also cannot find a job for a long time, withdraw into themselves, and are afraid to communicate with others.
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