How to properly communicate with your child after school: just don’t ask “How are you?”

Parents often tell their children that going to school is their job. So don't be surprised that after school your child may look tired and not be in the mood for heart-to-heart talks.

Of course, you need to get him to talk to distract him from bad thoughts, and you need to do it correctly.

Experts from Lady Mail.ru explained why you shouldn’t ask your child the typical question “How are you?” or “How was your day at school?” if you don’t want to hear the same typical answer.

First, wait for your brain to switch

Most likely, to the typical parental question “how are you?” the child will answer briefly and simply – “fine.”

This will happen if you start talking as soon as the student is home.

Wait until he finally feels at home, and then ask. Perhaps by then he will start telling you himself, and then you just need to listen.

Secondly, it may be difficult for the child to answer

Due to the peculiarities of brain development processes, it can be difficult for children under seven years of age to answer adults’ questions.

A child's brain does not work as quickly as an adult's brain. Moreover, you should not get irritated by stubborn silence - perhaps the schoolchild is just gathering his strength.

Thirdly, topics for conversation

Talking about something that doesn't seem particularly interesting to the child is unlikely to keep him busy. Therefore, you can start first by telling him about something interesting that happened at work or on the way home.

Fourth, let it be interesting

Find out who he meets, what interests his friends have, what he doesn’t like about the kids he’s not friends with.

This way you can get your child talking, get a lot of useful information, and give him some advice that will protect him from negativity.

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• 8 September 2024

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