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How Not to Raise a Daughter: 5 Mistakes Parents Make
05.05.2024 07:20
Nowadays, many things have changed, including approaches to raising children. What was considered correct 20-30 years ago is now questioned and is no longer so relevant.
The world is constantly changing, and accordingly, the principles of education are also changing. Stereotypes that were widespread earlier are no longer relevant.
For example, a girl no longer needs to be taught to be submissive and silent, or to be taught that the most important thing in life is a successful marriage.
On the contrary, it is now common to encourage girls to be creative, to develop their individuality, to teach them to defend their rights. What mistakes are still often made by parents raising daughters?
Excessive strictness in education
Contrary to popular belief, this will not protect the girl from possible mistakes in life. Often, children who were brought up in strictness learn to lie and wriggle out of things intricately, while still doing what they think is right.
In addition, excessive strictness breeds mistrust and the child’s unwillingness to share their problems with their parents, which can lead to tragedies in adolescence.
Overprotectiveness
Parents often worry about girls much more than boys, and try to control every step of their daughters in order to protect them as much as possible from any troubles.
As a rule, this leads to the exact opposite result. A girl who was constantly controlled by meticulous parents, told what and how to do, is not capable of making independent decisions, cannot stand up for herself, which often leads to getting into unpleasant situations.
The use of physical force as a method of punishment
Beating a child, especially a girl, for some misdeeds, offenses, bad behavior is not worth it under any circumstances. This will only lead to the child becoming withdrawn, silent, and uninitiative.
In this way, he will try to avoid punishment. But physical violence will have a far from positive effect on the child's psyche.
Creating a negative image of the father in the child
This is very common in single-parent families where the mother raises the girl alone.
The mother takes out her anger and resentment towards her ex-husband on her daughter, who may have abused alcohol, cheated on her, or committed some other unseemly acts that led to the breakup.
With her negative statements about her father, the mother causes psychological trauma to her daughter, which can later affect her relationships with the opposite sex in adulthood.
In such a situation, it is better not to talk about your father at all than to talk about him exclusively in a negative way.
Instilling distrust in all men
Of course, caution in relationships with the opposite sex will not hurt a girl, but instilling in her stereotypes that all men are bad, only want to drag you into bed, and then leave, cheat, etc. is far from the best option.
Imposed stereotypes that do not correspond to reality will greatly hinder the girl from building strong and healthy relationships; she will constantly expect some kind of catch.
Previously, we talked about how to make any relationship stronger and better .
