Why a child is rude: disrespect or defending boundaries – what should parents do
Rudeness or disrespect towards parents and elders in general on the part of children usually occurs during adolescence, but there are exceptions.
This behavior can be explained by upbringing by personal example. But not always and not everyone around lies and is rude to children so that they start to behave the same way.
Experts told parents what to do in such a situation.
Parents expect respect from their children, and punish them for disobedience. However, children perceive punishment as disrespect.
But what if punishment cannot be avoided?
1. Parents should pay attention to the phrases that the child uses most often.
Here it is important to understand the emotions that made you say this particular phrase.
Obviously, someone was wrong, and if the parent provoked the fight, then you will have to admit that you were wrong.
Then the child will understand that he has been heard and understood, and it will be easier to improve the relationship.
2. Next, you need to figure out the root of the problem. Perhaps the child is not feeling well, or has problems with friends or classmates.
There are no options other than to start paying more attention.
3. It is important to establish and maintain boundaries, the violation of which will be considered rudeness.
In this case, you can put the child in his place with a simple phrase: “In our family, no one is rude to anyone” (if this is really true).
Next, you need to take a pause. If the behavior does not change, then sanctions can be introduced.
These may be various restrictions, and parents will have the right to stand their ground so that their child fully experiences the consequences of being wrong and draws conclusions.
Lost privileges are restored as behavior is corrected.
The main thing, experts point out, when punishing a child is not to cross the line and stoop to humiliation.
Earlier we talked about why children don’t want to read .
