Should you hide money from your husband or wife: this phenomenon has even been given a name – financial infidelity
The term "financial cheating" is used when one or both partners in a couple hide their income, conceal their expenses, secretly maintain a savings account, etc.
According to psychologists, such actions (except when you are trying to save money secretly to give a gift to your significant other) are a signal that there are some problems in the couple.
So it's not about money at all, it's about lack of trust and deception.
Why do spouses hide their income from each other?
We invite you to learn about the main reasons why people prefer to hide their income.
1. The topic of money is taboo. If a person grew up in a family where it was not accepted to discuss income, ask about salary and strive to earn more, it goes without saying that he will have a lot of closed aspects and prejudices. There is a way out - learn financial literacy.
2. Own money is used to cope with emotions when a person is bored or sad, when he is not satisfied with his weight, appearance, etc. In this case, purchases distract him from pressing problems.
3. The couple has trust issues that are not just about money, and the partner decides that he or she will feel safer if he or she hides his or her savings.
This behavior also arises from a desire to avoid potential conflicts and arguments about where to spend money, but it can ultimately lead to even more tension in the relationship.
4. Sometimes family relationships become unhealthy when one partner begins to manipulate money, blaming and shaming the other for wastefulness and forcing them to provide spending reports.
If one spouse earns less or is temporarily out of work, the fear of falling into poverty can cause him or her to constantly feel like a victim.
Earlier we talked about how to respond correctly to envy .
