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How to overcome shyness: scientists have found that people make 3 mistakes
14.05.2024 09:10
Who doesn't want to be a welcome guest at any celebration or just a soulful get-together over a cup of tea?
To do this, it is not enough to be an educated and erudite person. It would be good to have communication skills, and even better, charisma. But first you need to overcome shyness.
This question was studied by the staff of the Stanford Graduate School of Business. It turns out that, when trying to overcome their shyness, people often start with the wrong thing.
First, you need to be interested, and not try to get others interested in you.
When people act like this, it doesn't give off the best impression to others. They are usually called "upstarts."
But excessive modesty is not good either. You can sit in the corner the whole holiday.
To get out of this corner, you need to pull yourself together, start to be interested and ask questions, and if you have to comment on something, then be sure to ask the opinions of others.
By communicating in this manner, you can gain sympathy and trust.
Secondly, you need to be able to gracefully exit a dialogue.
You can pretend that "my phone rang." But this is an old trick that is perceived as an excuse.
To exit a conversation gracefully, it is better to use phrases like “I have to go now, but I would like to ask you….”
You don’t have to ask, but on the contrary, tell, remind, recall a historical anecdote, and so on.
But be sure to thank your interlocutor and listeners for their time.
Third, don't try to get someone's attention without a topic of conversation.
Knowing about the interests of society, you can sketch out in your head a list of topics that are customary to talk about in the company.
Think about not only current topics, but also questions that you might have to answer at the event.
Earlier we talked about the signs that a person is lying to you .
