How to Forgive an Offender: 4 Steps That Will Teach You to Forgive
If you are wondering whether to forgive someone who has mortally offended you, remember that forgiveness primarily brings healing to the person who forgives.
Forgiving is the same as giving yourself freedom.
How to learn to forgive offenders
1. Analyze the damage done to you - without understatement or exaggeration. You are required to provide a whole list of everything that has offended you and what wounds have been inflicted on you.
2. Once you have completed your list, describe the emotions you felt along with the hurt and think about how they have affected your life – this could be anger, hatred, humiliation, shame, etc.
Write them down and talk about them – you can express your emotions in any way (non-violent).
3. You will have to give up the desire to forever place responsibility on the person who offended you.
If, contrary to what has been said, you expect the offender to be responsible to you forever, this means that you have voluntarily given up your own life.
4. The last step you need to take is to let go of your abuser.
Literally: let go and let him go, stop demanding that he change, stop nursing your wounds.
Stop remembering all the insults and grievances over and over again – let this person no longer occupy your thoughts.
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