How to say no without feeling guilty: simple rules

Refusing, as well as accepting refusals, are difficult tasks that evoke unpleasant emotions.

To help both parties in a conversation feel comfortable after saying no, use any of the following ways to say "No!"

Suggest an alternative

Perhaps the easiest way to say no is to reject the offer, but offer a "consolation prize." There are nuances: your answer should really be useful to the questioner - this is the only way you will not feel guilty.

Connect empathy

Even if you can't do anything in response to a request, show the person that you really heard and understood them. Perhaps you should confirm that the other person is trying their best or that they are facing a truly difficult task.

Refer to something objective

You might cite your schedule, workload, or other responsibilities as a reason for refusing—something that is outside of your control.

Don't forget about the subjective

By "subjective" here we mean, for example, your taste, skills or style. For example, it is easy to say "No" to an offer to try on the role of a host at a party if you accompany your refusal with the explanation that "Being on stage is not my thing."

Previously, we talked about how to improve your communication skills .

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• 21 February 2024

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