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What to do if your ex continues to ruin your life: 5 rules from a psychologist
28.11.2024 12:24
The breakup of a relationship does not always happen peacefully.
If your ex-partner cannot leave you alone and continues to bother you, in such a situation you should adhere to the following rules.
Let each other go
Despite the fact that this is a simple rule, not everyone manages to follow it. Sometimes the reason is that you and your ex-man have a lot in common: these could be mutual friends, children, a mortgage, or a joint business.
And sometimes it happens that the relationship is over only for you, while your partner does not want a break and begins to do nasty things, trying to hurt you and take revenge in every possible way.
Stop everything together
The only thing that can remain a "common thread" is your children. Everything else can be stopped, so do it.
If you cannot come to an agreement on your own, seek help from third parties - lawyers, psychologists, etc.
Stop communicating
If a person brings discomfort into your life, stop communicating with them. If there are still situations where you need to communicate (this could be work or children), replace personal meetings with calls, calls with messages, and messages with emails.
And no social networks – block your ex and stop following his life yourself.
Respond with indifference
No matter how painful it is for you, you should not react to the antics of your ex-partner - neither positively nor negatively. The surest way is to use indifference. The only exception is situations in which you need to protect your personal boundaries. In this case, you can contact the police, if necessary.
Get off the emotional swing
If your ex-partner first provokes you with little things, then creates real problems, and after all this comes with apologies and does good deeds, he is playing with you. You should not give in to such tricks - always remember why you broke up.
For reference
A breakup is the end of an intimate relationship in any sense other than death.
