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10 Unobvious Ways to Bring Passion Back into Your Relationship. The Fourth Way Will Surely Surprise You
12.02.2025 14:44
Romantic dinners and vacations together are boring. Modern research proves that passion returns through unconventional methods.
Dr. Arthur Aron, creator of 36 Questions for Love, says, "Novelty is an aphrodisiac for the brain."
Method 1: Change roles
Try living a day "in each other's shoes." He takes the kids to school, you fix the faucet. Bloggers Jenna and Julian said on the YouTube show Life Swap : "After this, we stopped perceiving everyday life as routine."
The second way: “forbidden” conversations
Discuss fantasies you've been too embarrassed to talk about. According to the Journal of Sex Research , 68% of couples who opened up about secret desires reported a surge in intimacy.
The third way: joint stress
Go to an amusement park, take a pottery class. A study by New York University found that adrenaline synchronizes hearts and increases desire.
Method 4: Start Fighting
But in a new way. Have “debates” on absurd topics (“Who’s cooler: Batman or Spider-Man?”). As The Times writes, laughing during an argument reduces tension and reminds you that you’re a team.
Method 5: “Digital Detox”
Turn off your phones on the weekend. Chris and Emily , the stars of the Relationships Unfiltered podcast, admitted, “In two days without Instagram, we remembered how to have a face-to-face conversation.”
But the main thing is to stop chasing the "ideal." As Brené Brown said in The Gifts of Imperfection , "Passion lives not in perfection, but in being real."
Let's add another important aspect: passion often returns through shared dreams. Plan something grand: a trip, a move, a new project. As Forbes writes, "shared goals bring people closer together than shared memories."
Also, don’t forget about physical intimacy. Even if it’s just a hug before bed or a kiss before work. Psychologist Virginia Satir said: “We need 4 hugs a day for survival, 8 for support, and 12 for growth.”
Lastly, passion takes effort. It’s not something that just happens. As writer Richard Bach said, “True love is a choice you make every day.”
