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Parents were told what phrases irritate teenagers: don't be surprised next time
25.09.2024 12:05
Rarely do parents manage to get through their children's teenage years without much upheaval.
It cannot be said that they were lucky with their children in this regard. They simply worked on themselves, on their relationships with their children, and tried to avoid sharp corners.
To make this happen in real life, parents need to think about what they say to their children and what emotions their words evoke in teenagers.
First, talk about grades
Modern experts never tire of repeating that the grade is not the most important thing. But parents do not listen to them and still believe that everything is just the opposite.
So don't be surprised by teenage indignation when, looking through a diary, you ask why, instead of an "excellent," the child received only a "good."
Secondly, don't compare
A teenager doesn't care that at his age Arkady Gaidar commanded a regiment. And if your childhood was somehow different, then at best the child can only sympathize.
So don't tell us what results you achieved as a child.
These stories do not motivate, but make you think that the child does not look good enough in the eyes of the parents or disgraces the family name.
Thirdly, phrases of typical adults
Instead of giving a comprehensive answer to a child, adults say with a serious face: “you’ll find out when you grow up”, “you’re too young to understand”, “you don’t need to know this”, and so on.
A modern teenager will still find an answer to the question that interests him, but next time he is unlikely to come to his parents for advice.
